Here’s some advice on how to make sure kids of all ages cope with the buying process and the big move.
Finding a New Home
Communicate: Maintain an open dialogue with children about the decision to move to a new house. Engaging them at the beginning of the process will give them time to get used to the idea and ultimately accept the change. Explain the reasons behind the move, and answer questions truthfully. However, early discussion does not mean it’s necessary to haul them to every single home being considered — especially very young children. Once the choices have been narrowed down to perhaps two or three, bring them to the homes so they can begin to feel familiar with new surroundings.
Listen: Listening to what children are saying about the move is just as important as talking to them about it. By paying close attention to their statements and reactions, parents can alleviate any fears. This is especially important for school-age children and teenagers who may be reluctant to leave their friends and classmates. Avoid being dismissive of their social concerns; acknowledge them and remind them about the new opportunities that await them. Focusing on the positives of the move may help settle down anxious children.
Explore. After deciding on a new home, I can help a family discover their new neighborhood. I can point out the playgrounds, community centers, recreation areas and other areas important to the kids and help make the environment seem more familiar.
Moving In
Comfort. Pack up the kids’ rooms last to minimize disruption. The longer they feel secure in their own rooms, the easier the transition will be. Then, set up their new bedrooms first so they feel like they’re back in familiar surroundings. And do not completely redecorate the kids’ rooms in the new home; maintain continuity so the kids feel secure. It is very important to return to normal routines as quickly as possible, so set up the kitchen second. Try to serve meals at the same times as before, so there is not too much change all at once.
Engage. Show the children all of the other rooms in the new home and let them participate to a degree in decorating decision making. By accepting input on decoration, parents will make their kids feel like they are part of the process.
Surprise. Arrange for special treats to be waiting for everyone at the new house. New games or new cuddly friends will keep the kids busy during unpacking and make the first memory of the new house a pleasant one.
Anne-Marie McKenzie is a Realtor with Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage in Yarmouth. She works exclusively with buyers, sellers and investors, and teaches free buyer classes. Contact her at 847-1725 or AnneMarie.McKenzie@NewEnglandMoves.com.